[討論] 結婚問題

paulpaul · **註冊時間:** 2005-07-12 15:31 **文章:** 134

我1年前結婚:
禮金$80,000
女家要酒席6圍 (6Kx6=$36,000), 其餘可以break even
婚紗相 $20,000
買樓樓價3成 $X
濕星 $10000
總值$14,6000+$X = 打回原形

只能玩入門級紅水晶

大猩猩王~ · **發表於 :** 2006-02-20 22:33

paulpaul 寫:

我1年前結婚:
禮金$80,000
女家要酒席6圍 (6Kx6=$36,000), 其餘可以break even
婚紗相 $20,000
買樓樓價3成 $X
濕星 $10000
總值$14,6000+$X = 打回原形

+ 多o左個老婆仔

老通Tony · **發表於 :** 2006-02-20 22:48

個仔讀完書,就計劃好要結婚.
我睇你唔好搞亂佢d計劃喇.
依家d後生仔唔同我地以前喇.

恭喜晒.

chu · **發表於 :** 2006-02-20 22:53

老通Tony 寫:

個仔讀完書,就計劃好要結婚.
我睇你唔好搞亂佢d計劃喇.
依家d後生仔唔同我地以前喇.

恭喜晒.

係囉,佢要結你點可以話no架.

劍桃太郎 · **發表於 :** 2006-02-20 23:11

恭喜恭喜.雖然比唔到d咩意見.你個仔都咁.識諗架啦.唔洗擔心佢.等抱孫就最開心

awth_hk · **註冊時間:** 2005-11-03 10:11 **文章:** 3773

其實大部份人比意見都係各有各睇法, 有佢哋嘅一套睇法, 讚成與否, 都唔到我哋参與..... 因為我哋都唔係當事人, 包括未來老爺, 朱翁!

可能有部份地方佢真係冇諗過, 可能比你點一點, 醒咗都唔其! 做老豆嘅, 個仔要娶老婆, 係今時今日嘅社會, 真係唔輪到你話唔得, 但唯一可以做就係幫佢考慮周長d, 比d意見佢自已諗清楚, 無論佢嘅決定係點, 都係要企佢果邊支持佢, 將來好與醜, 邊度諗得咁多架!

我未做過人老豆, 唔知啱唔啱, 只知要引渡佢考慮周長d, 幫到嘅就扶一扶佢! 總之將來唔後侮就ok啦!

Draco · **註冊時間:** 2002-09-22 15:08 **文章:** 1339

chu兄

我同青頭兄差唔多，都係社會大學畢業出黎，做左十幾年野，風光過亦折墮過。之前好景出黎接工程做，一個月4、5萬閒閒地，不過o靚仔唔識唸，搵得多時駛得大...一直到26歲都未比過一個仙返屋企，呢幾年先叫生性返少少，不過都係像徵式1-2千，靠我養家真係屋企隻貓都養唔起，呢D濕碎錢都係呢幾年儲返黎(唔駛點比家用嘛)，唔知呢D算唔算屋企幫？雖然阿媽都有問過駛唔駛幫，不過自問真係冇乜顏面再釜阿媽D棺材本...

ANDY兄都講得o岩，社會大學要時間浸返黎，不過都要盡快令令郎明白責任同理財o既重要性，免得以後事事都要靠屋企

Andy Kong · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 00:41

chu 寫:

andy的意見都幾好,唔好太大使,盡量用得合理d,但係免息貸款太過生意化,唔係好認同.

到時個仔還比我，咪又係用返係佢度，or 佢的子女，對子女的已出之物，點會真係收返，希望藉此要佢 bear 個 responsibility 就真嘅！

F91 · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 00:45

個人認為.....無必要出錢幫佢結婚~~讀完書出黎就話結婚???佢有冇諗過後果??定你無諗過後果?
1. 佢有冇經濟能力養到個家!? 無既你貼佢呀? 你幫到佢結婚你幫唔幫到佢養個屋企?
2. 佢有冇諗過自己事業方面?? 我唔包佢出黎搵到份勁高人工既人工+唔會俾人抄~你唔好唔記得佢岩岩讀完書....真正既人生經驗係出左黎做野先會學到...真係出黎做野就有2萬以上咩...唔好玩我啦...就算有萬5蚊要養個屋企都好辛苦呀
3. 你應該睇下佢既計劃到底係點?
4. 個女仔係咩人?如果你地識左好耐既你又覺得佢真係好好既真係好女難求~佢地真係好恩愛既..提早俾佢地結婚無所謂....
5. 都係叫你個仔讀完書出黎社會衰過先諗呢樣野啦....人唔苦唔識大~人唔衰過更加唔識大!!!學力係未真係咁重要? 我可以話係...表面上....實制上....人生經驗絕對有用過學力

我自己計劃左我自己目標30歲前要有車~有樓~有事業...我就算要結婚我都要照顧得到佢幸幸福福~唔洗煩錢呢樣野先....因為我知無錢有幾辛苦~我唔想連自己老婆都要同我受苦~另一方面我想我老婆結婚果陣係有一個搞到好大既婚禮~我都係唔生性...23歲仔都就黎到...都未搞好事業.....

PS 為女唔係唔好....因為會有原動力令你好努力咁係事業方面發展...

青頭 · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 02:18

chu師兄，你看我們這些二三十歲的說法都差不多，因為我地都係剛經歴完踏出社會衰過痛過改變過的新鮮熱辣一群。
個個回想番都發現自己的喜好、觀點、處事手法...已經180度改變了。當初所喜愛及所求的都不同了，這不段改變的過程中也會影響身邊的人，身邊的人會未必能及時接受得了你的改變而產生磨擦。
我自己這十年間拍過幾次拖每次都兩三年，而每次也有想過結婚，我不是喜歡追女仔的人，但最後都因思想上的改變令雙方距離越來越遠而分手。
家人也有磨擦，搬過兩次出去住，後來都是自己想清楚後努力跟家人再次建立關係。

所以...今次件事真係要三思呀......

Di Canio · **註冊時間:** 2003-08-13 11:56 **文章:** 317

[路過] 雖然自己距離結婚仲有十萬八千里, 但見到每個人計條數都數以萬, 十萬, 幾十萬計... 你話點結... 我都有 fd 結左, 一獲清 acct 咁濟... 真係乜都講錢$$$$, 大佬我連一 set Co2都唔捨得買呀

再者, 自己人工又唔係高一年最多咪儲二三萬

邊度結得起, 真係諗諗下唔結好過結, 結都唔會係三幾年內o既事... 我諗過三十啦... 始終我對婚姻好冇信心

但係見到公司d大佬級主任級三十幾歲人冇拖拍冇結婚, 就覺得佢地人生好慘咁

佢地有錢, 但咁又點? 去到佢地個 age 都唔結, 又冇個女友的話都幾難會搵到個人終老, 真係幾悲... 我唔想咁樣呀

發 up 瘋完畢

[路過]

amen · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 04:00

F91 寫:

個人認為.....無必要出錢幫佢結婚~~讀完書出黎就話結婚???佢有冇諗過後果??定你無諗過後果?
兩情相悅,繁事只會想得美好,特別是有爸,媽比錢果d!!
1. 佢有冇經濟能力養到個家!? 無既你貼佢呀? 你幫到佢結婚你幫唔幫到佢養個屋企?
絕對認同,燈油火焟一個家,到時未必笑哈哈!!
2. 佢有冇諗過自己事業方面?? 我唔包佢出黎搵到份勁高人工既人工+唔會俾人抄~你唔好唔記得佢岩岩讀完書....真正既人生經驗係出左黎做野先會學到...真係出黎做野就有2萬以上咩...唔好玩我啦...就算有萬5蚊要養個屋企都好辛苦呀
現今社會,有份工唔代表可做一世,養頭家唔嘢小,如果未有心理有小朋友.....仲.....><!!
3. 你應該睇下佢既計劃到底係點?
其實兩父子,如果係真對佢好,你係有責任做一個[婚前當頭棒喝]說出利弊,好叫大家都無後悔;唔好貪見喜事,有理無理便支持,記住......擺完酒,第二朝....這個社會都係無改變!!
4. 個女仔係咩人?如果你地識左好耐既你又覺得佢真係好好既真係好女難求~佢地真係好恩愛既..提早俾佢地結婚無所謂....
姻緣天註定,唔會一婚書便可保障,特別剛出社會做嘢,佢地有好多俊男,美女未見過;環境特變.....我覺得都係兩人保持密運好過咁心血來潮去結婚!!
5. 都係叫你個仔讀完書出黎社會衰過先諗呢樣野啦....人唔苦唔識大~人唔衰過更加唔識大!!!學力係未真係咁重要? 我可以話係...表面上....實制上....人生經驗絕對有用過學力
當然際遇好重要,仲會令一個人的想法有好大奕化!!
我自己計劃左我自己目標30歲前要有車~有樓~有事業...我就算要結婚我都要照顧得到佢幸幸福福~唔洗煩錢呢樣野先....因為我知無錢有幾辛苦~我唔想連自己老婆都要同我受苦~另一方面我想我老婆結婚果陣係有一個搞到好大既婚禮~我都係唔生性...23歲仔都就黎到...都未搞好事業.....

PS 為女唔係唔好....因為會有原動力令你好努力咁係事業方面發展...

有好多例子我見過,真係意想不到!!
如果諗住早晚都要行這路,不如早d做便要諗吓現在自己是否真係適合做!!

老柯 · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 05:18

先恭喜曬Ｄ求婚成功成今年拉埋個窗、可能會拉埋、諗住遲早都會拉埋

chowdee · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 10:52

actually i agreed with F91, from Chu's point of view:

1, can help then help lor...my son ma...plus my son is a good boy

from Chu's son pov:

1, never come out to work, don't know how hard to make and save money
2, if his future wife regret that your son has no financial support on his own, everything rely on parents, i bet her and her parents must have comment later on

i'm not saying that your son can't make money, it's just everything you planned for him, support him might harm him in the future (which mean for the next few years)

because he's not sure what kind of job he'll get and how much he get every month, then what? ask you again? noway la...right?

Chu, you really can't stop him getting marry, but you MUST have to discuss with your son that, "THE PLANS FOR FUTURE" not just now or next step la.....

ASK HIM CAN HE GARANTEE ANYTHING? GARANTEE HE CAN HANDLE ON HIS OWN IN THE FUTURE? ASK HIM IF HER PARENTS IN-LAW AGREE TO HAVE A SON IN-LAW THAT HAS NO FINANCIAL SUPPORT AND LET THEIR DAUGHTER GO WITH YOU AND MAKE A LIVING WITH YOUR SON FOR THE COMING FEW YEARS?

those are quite critical la...i think!

your son is getting marry is the most happiest thing in your life, but don't make this happy thing ruin your expectation though~~~

smelly_cat · **發表於 :** 2006-02-21 11:32

chu兄...雖然素未謀面...但都想講幾句...希望你唔好介意......

其實結婚呢d野...等你個仔諗清楚先la......
結婚唔係結果下咁簡單......
我做過野又讀返書...心態都好唔同ga......
我覺得一個人要真真正正出黎做過野先正式開竅......
35歲前結婚...我都覺得無問題......

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